HELP Fast forward to today…I have been dating a man for 7 months now… He is a radio show/podcast host with 3 others and most of their shows are at bars as they discuss new craft beers. I live 2 hours away and have 2 children at home so I can’t be at those shows. He has a real job and only does the podcast a couple days a week. But he’s trying to grow his business so he is always on social media…. getting attention from women as well as others. I’m sure you’ve probably already guessed I have abandonment and trust issues. So this doesn’t make for a winning combination! But I love him. And I fell in love with him completely by accident. I wasn’t looking for anything… after my year of hermit mode, I made myself get out and do things. I went out with a couple guys but nothing I saw as long term. Then I gave up for a while and I was content being alone. I enjoyed not being stressed or worried. Then long story short, he contacted me on Facebook… which usually annoyed me because I was sick of strange men asking me out. I had NO desire to ever date again. But I knew his sister so I thought he’d be cool too. He was… super cool. He wasn’t looking either… he wondered how we had so many mutual friends but didn’t know each other. The more we talked, the more we couldn’t wait to actually meet. I really tried hard not to like him. I just kept telling myself he was someone to hang out with. He was a total gentleman for a couple months! We meshed in every way… or so it appeared. He finally told me he had a roommate… a girl… an ex girlfriend. ugh. I hate it! But they have both told me that they broke up 6 years ago and neither of them have wanted to go down that road again. So, they have lived together on and off for over 6 years. She’s been engaged but it didn’t work so she moved back, 2 years ago. She would text him on the weekends we were together… and he lied to me about it at first
until i saw a text from her come in. Then he said he lied to protect my feelings. So I told him he needed to set some healthy boundaries… he wouldn’t do it. He didn’t want to hurt her feelings. So we would argue about how i felt he was putting her feeling above mine. He disagreed and we would just go around and around about it. Then he told me I should just meet her and then I could start staying there… so every other weekend, we would either stay at his brother’s or we would get a hotel room…
that started getting extremely expensive. So I agreed to meet her. I don’t like her. She has no filter and just very self centered. But I faked it. Well then he tells me I still can’t stay there because she doesn’t know me and it’s her house too. So their plan is, she is going to buy the house from him in January. I’m not so sure I see it happening… but we’ll see. Please, if I’m just crazy, tell me straight up. I’ll accept it and try to figure it out. Sorry this is so long… but there’s a lot to know to be able to make a clear assessment of the sucky situation. Thank you for reading this far! i look forward to any help i can get! Mikki
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